A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, temperate, sober-minded, of good behavior, hospitable, able to teach; not given to wine, not violent, not greedy for money, but gentle, not quarrelsome, not covetous; (I Timothy 3:2, 3 NKJV)
The more quarrels a leader picks the more people he drops. As a leader, you want to get along with people as much as possible. You want to maintain good relationship with people and avoid quarrels. Violence is never an option. Learn from Jesus Christ.
Quarrelling sends out the wrong signals and you want to avoid that. Why should people follow you in the first place if you get along with nobody? More importantly, an out of control leader is an accident waiting to happen. Who in their right mind would want to stick around for the crash? Peace, I mean inner peace is a protective shield for the mind and heart. A leader needs that very much. Without it his defences are breached, he can make mistakes, make wrong choices, say the wrong things and get himself and others pumped full of negative emotions, instead of love.
Leaders should be able to spot faults easily, but not to become fault finders. Leaders identify faults and find solutions. A leader who quarrels a lot soon wears his people out.
Leaders should be leaders, not opponents or competitors. Teach and instruct, avoid arguing! Arguments produce winners and losers. But a leader wants hearts that are willing to follow and full of respect for his leadership.
Now, leaders should avoid coming across as feeling so high and lofty about themselves, nevertheless, they can’t afford to appear “no better” than those they lead. You argue with colleagues. Anybody you argue with levels up with you. It’s like that. That’s why quarrelsome people are rarely held in high esteem. And a leader must be esteemed among the people.
O LORD COME SOON.